“I’m not a carer, it’s just what you do for your loved one, isn’t it?”
I hear this a lot, from couples to neighbours who are running regular errands and looking in on them. Many people consider that only people getting paid to provide care are carers but this isn’t accurate. There’s a whole army of unpaid carers, many of whom don’t identify themselves as a carer and may be missing out on help, support and advice.
How do I know if I am a carer?
- You help and support someone on a regular basis: This could be daily, weekly, or even just a few times a month.
- You might give up your own time and activities: You may be missing out on social events, hobbies, or even work to care for someone.
- You may experience emotional and physical strain: Caring for someone can be emotionally and physically demanding, leading to stress, anxiety, and even physical health issues.
- Feeling isolated and on your own: You may become increasingly isolated from friends and family as you carry out your caring responsibilities.
Caring for a loved one can be rewarding, but it can also be challenging. If you’re regularly providing care and support to a loved one, friend or neighbour, you may be a carer – even if you don’t think of yourself as one.
An unpaid carer is someone who provides regular, unpaid care and support to a loved one, friend or neighbour who may be struggling due to age, illness, disability, mental health problems, or addiction. This could include anything from helping with washing and dressing, supporting them to fill in forms and sorting out appointments to providing emotional support and managing medication.
What is Carer Strain?
Carer strain is a common experience for unpaid carers. It can manifest in various ways, including:
- Physical: This can include tiredness, back pain, general aches and pains and other physical ailments.
- Emotional strain: Anxiety, depression, and feelings of overwhelm are common.
- Financial strain: Caring responsibilities can impact your ability to work, leading to financial difficulties.
- Social strain: Isolation and loneliness can be significant contributors to carer strain.
- Guilt: Feeling guilty for getting frustrated, not being able to be there full time or feeling resentful.
Looking after yourself:
Self-care is crucial for carers to maintain their own well-being. Here are some tips:
- Prioritise your own needs: Make the time to do things you enjoy, even if it’s just for a short time each day.
- Ask for help: Many people find this difficult.Don’t be afraid to ask for help from friends, family, or other support services.
- Take breaks: Even short breaks can make a big difference in reducing stress.
- Join a support group: There are local support groups which can help you to connect with other carers and receive information, advice and support.
Carers Allowance:
Carer’s Allowance is a benefit for people who provide regular care and support to a disabled person for at least 35 hours a week.
Eligibility:
- People who provide regular care and support to a disabled person for at least 35 hours a week.
- The person you care for must be receiving certain qualifying benefits, such as Personal Independence Payment (PIP) or Attendance Allowance.
- You cannot earn more than £151 per week while receiving Carer’s Allowance.
What you will get:
- The current rate of Carer’s Allowance is £81.90 per week.
Who can help?
There are organisations in the UK that can provide support to unpaid carers. These include:
- Carers UK: This national charity provides information, advice, and support to carers across the UK. You can find your local Carers UK office on their website.
- Age UK: This charity provides support to older people and their carers.
- Mind: This charity provides information and support on mental health issues, including those affecting carers.
- Your local council: The local authority has a duty to provide support to carers. You can contact them to find out what services are available in your area.
- Your GP: Let them know you are a carer, they may offer a range of health and wellbeing services and help.
- Family Care Advice: We provide help to find the right care solutions for your loved one, ensure all benefits are being received and offer emotional support.
Caring for someone can be a rewarding experience, but it’s important to remember to take care of yourself too. If you’re struggling, don’t hesitate to reach out for help.
Disclaimer: This information is for general guidance only and should not be considered medical or financial advice.
